Sunday, November 24, 2013

Book Review - Around the Writer's Block

I will begin with a book that resonated with me until I heard a pitch fork humming every time I read it.  It brought the self-help standard fare of the ever nebulous, arty-farty, inner child, pabulum crap, sharply into the real world.  The world I happen to actually inhabit.  The one we all do.  The one of flesh and blood, physiology, brain workings and biology. 
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Around the Writer’s Block
by Rosanne Bane

I have never felt so … normalized, as when reading this book.  All the quirks, the “failings”, those inexplicable behaviors and sabotage I just couldn’t get through, all explained here with brain science in simple, insanely normalizing language.  Avoiding writing?  Nonsense – you are simply in the incubating stage.  Necessary, essential.  Doodling instead of writing?  Good!  You’re allowing creativity – more parts of the entire brain, not just the survival or logic systems, to speak.  Experiencing “writer’s block?”  Nah, you’re just in the middle of a limbic system takeover because that primitive system can’t distinguish between a wooly mammoth and modern day anxiety and stressors – like a dreaded blank screen or page.


Rosanne Bane starts by explaining flat out exactly what’s going on up there in all that grey matter, why we have what she terms as “resistance” to writing to begin with.  The validation from this section alone is worth any price of admission.  What I’ve been doing and haven’t understood all my life – no, flagellated myself with – is normal?!  Others have this?  I am not alone.  Profound.  From the limbic system takeovers to brain basics to the new frontier of the plastic brain – it’s served up in easy to read and understand language for the hungry, lost, and self-defeated soul like I was.

It’s amazing to me that as writers, we have understood very little what the process of “writing” actually is – from a scientific, behavioral perspective.  All of the ‘how to’ writing books I’ve read valiantly try to explain this mystery, each using their own particular language to do so.  And I do believe in each and every one of them.  Why?  I make it uncomplicated for my poor ol’ brain.  I simply believe that they are all really saying the same thing.  It’s just marketing – a different label for your particular bent.  It becomes a matter of finding the language that speaks to you.  But we do mystify the process, the art, as if it really is a magical, unexplainable process.  Maybe we even believe that.  The “voices”, the stories, they just come from somewhere.  We can’t really explain how.  Until now.  Around the Writer’s Block actually enlightens us to what is really going on, and doesn’t just couch it in some metaphysical, magical concept.  And this language just so happens to work best for me.  It makes perfect sense.  I can hear it clicking into place.  Ahhh.  Nothing like a perfect fit – that one thing that just makes sense, makes the rest of the world make sense. 

Probably the most profound epiphany I took from this book is the assertion (with proof!) that writing isn’t just the actual ‘writing’ part, the putting pen to paper and producing words one after another in magical sublime order the first go-round.  Writing is in fact, according to my newest hero, a series of fluid stages and each are equally and essentially vital to the process.  This book expanded the whole concept of writing for me.  I firmly believed if I wasn’t physically writing, putting that pen to paper, fingers to keys with words showing up, then I wasn’t writing.  Well, that’s just not so.  There are critical components, essential processes, that we paradoxically try to repress so we can ‘write’!  Do you ever feel guilty for staring out the window “daydreaming” as we call it?  Did you ever get in trouble at school for daydreaming, doodling, not “paying attention”? 
Information gets stored in many, many different ways in the brain, and is accessed by just as many.  Understanding what it actually is that we do, normalizing that process and harnessing it, instead of feeling guilty about it and building cottage industries to “cure” writer’s block, is revolutionary to me. 

So let’s take that ‘writer’s block’ and look at it through this lens.  There is nothing but negative and harshly judgmental attribution that goes along with that phenomenon.  But per Ms. Bane, “You are not being weak-willed, thin-skinned, oversensitive, underdisciplined, or lazy.  You are reacting to a subconscious awareness of a potential threat.”  Hah!  Take that!  Then you learn there is actually something you can do about it and she teaches you, step by step with direct instructions, exercises and homework.  This is a complete ‘wrap-around' book and course.  She gives you everything, explains it all.  It’s not just about writing.  It is about life.  Particularly about life in this complex and confusing age with way too much stimuli.  You can’t write if all the pieces aren’t working together or working well.  It’s not just about writing exercises.  She includes what she calls “Process” time (play!), “Self Care” and effective “Product Time.” 

Ms. Bane even offers coaching and has set up a whole network of support systems, and ways to form your own groups over the internet.  It’s one of those experiences, like ‘why the hell isn’t this taught in grade school through college as required learning?  We’re taught theoretical concepts, important information surely, but when it comes to understanding our own systems, our own brains, it’s left a mystery.  The brain really is so basic.  And it is wonderfully amazing and convoluted – it means well I think!  The fund of knowledge is growing every day, and that just gets me giddy. 
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This book for me was the culmination of every ‘how to’ book I’ve ever read.  It is wonderful and it will change your life.  The last frontier – the brain!

Check out Rosanne Bane's website here - Baneofyourresistance.com

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Sunday, November 17, 2013

Avoidance



I would rather die than not write.  I would rather do anything in the world than write.  It is a conundrum.

The best way to circumvent the conundrum altogether is by marvelous, ever-faithful, ever foolproof –

AVOIDANCE

So what constitutes avoidance, true avoidance, in this day and age of seemingly non-stop stimuli designed to hold our focus for the magical 90 seconds?  Well, just about anything I discovered.  There are infinite clever paths, remarkable in complexity, extraordinary in sheer simplicity.  Hilarious to observe objectively, and in others – so easy there!  Stop me when I get to your favorite:

Living in others’ books, hiding out, living in others’ lives, catatonia (with or without the cat),
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running away to find that perfect locale where your true life can finally begin, hunting for that perfect mate who will give your life real meaning (I just had a typo here by writing “lie” instead of “life” … let’s not analyze that too much shall we?), getting married, moving, moving again, getting a job, having children, entering and staying in school for a decade, getting another job, a promotion, fired, divorced, getting remarried, moving, moving again … have we reached it yet?

For me, if I had to pick the most soul-crushing, most devious trap of all, it is far and away ‘the day job.’  Beat to death in my last post, but still.  I’m just sayin’.  

So what to do?  I could go on and on here in a rant about discipline, strategy, tricks and exercises.  But if I’m really honest I must acknowledge that one great man with two tiny words already said it all.  Stop it.  Just stop it.  Go check out Bob Newhart’s “Stop It” skit if you haven’t seen it already.  Really – sage advice and applicable to just about everything – including avoidance!  Follow the YouTube link here to watch.  youtube.com


Now - stop it.  Go write a post, a fun literary email to somebody who would understand what you’re doing, write a page of free association (just don’t read it after – scary stuff), jot down an idea that magically emerged on a hike, in a waking moment.  Write it down.  Put a check-mark through whatever it was.  You did it.  You did something.  You accomplished something you wouldn’t have.  Don’t you feel better?  Now the best part, we get to go have wine and chocolate and BBC television – yay!

Next up, a smooth-move segue from here to things that may actually help – it’s in the title after all – the march of the self help books is coming! 

Please check out the Book Reviews Page beginning this week.

Monday, November 11, 2013

NaNoWriMo - Say What?!

I am writing you this missive from a jail cell.  I have been imprisoned for crimes of high treason, crimes against the very fabric of writerdom. 

The writing police appeared at my office door, busting in while I was embarrassingly in mid split infinitive.  “I was going to edit it, I swear!”  But that wasn’t it.   What did I do now?  One played good cop, the other bad.  Mr. Good offered gentle critique in the persuasive lyrical prose ala Diane Ackerman and the clean precision of Joan Didion; while Mr. Bad spoke sparingly in the heavy, no-nonsense language of Hemmingway, and cutting edge new style/no style daring, dropping prepositions at the end of his sentences like he just don’t care.

They roughed me up a bit, sat me back down in my chair and spun me around to face my most egregious error.  It is November.  This is a writing blog.  Why have I not mentioned NaNoWriMo? 

What the hell.

I had not even heard of this Hawaiian-type vowel soup until just very recently.  Apparently I didn’t get the memo.  So now I have been sentenced to house arrest with Mr. Good lurking right outside my door until I make immediate amends for my odious oversight. 

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November is and shall always be National Novel Writing Month (NaNoWriMo).  The world must come together, and each and every being must write a complete novel.  In a month.  No allowances, no excuses.  I have heard there are factions of this organization that have gone rogue, accosting old ladies in parking lots, demanding they provide drafts of their murder mysteries on the spot.  They’ve established checkpoints, stopping motorists and turning them back to their laptops until they produce.  The rest of life must be put on hold.  Don’t answer the phone, the door.  Ignore those bills and the job to pay them.  Become a teetotaler, celibate.  Neglect your children and certainly your friends.  To hell with Thanksgiving.  Write.  Just write.  All month.  You must have a final novel finished by the deadline of November 30th.

I want to understand, get on board.  I really do.  So I ventured to peek my head out, inquire of Mr. Good, “How did this all begin?  Who came up with this madness?  Doesn’t it rail against everything we are as writers?  The angst, the years spent incubating ideas, the drinking.  What of the suicides?  How could there possibly be time for them in November if we are so tasked with this unbelievable feat?”  He merely smiled briefly, enigmatic.  Whispering Haikus he firmly shut my door.  This time I heard a bolt lock in place.  Ok then.  


NaNoWriMo began in 1999.  It is a 501(c)(3) nonprofit that’s gaining momentum and clearly has no intention of going away.  In 2012 they claimed 586 regions on six continents with 341,375 participants who “… started the month as auto mechanics, out-of-work actors, and middle school English teachers.  They walked away novelists.”  Over 250 NaNoWriMo novels have been traditionally published.  They anticipate a half a million writers joining the challenge this year.  

As if I don’t have enough super-ego pressure weighing down every time I venture away from my desk to sneak an artichoke, Netflix-ed BBC (do not get me started – I am obsessed with Dr. Who), or a mug of wine.  I feel guilty every time I have to do laundry, spend time on chores – ANY time I am not writing.  My logic centers figure I squander away enough time at that meaningless job for god’s sake, I can’t waste any more.  And now this.  A whammy of a mandate.  A herculean test of fortitude, strength, and ultimate commitment to writing.

What about the actual novel I am working on?  What becomes of that?  Do I put that process on steroids and slam it out?  Would something be lost by doing that or gained?  What happens if I do it and can’t get back to the development it was under?  If I don’t want to risk that contamination, then that means a whole new novel.  I try to reason with the NaNoWriMo police again with this new insight, but they will have none of it.  They’ve heard it all before.  They remain judgmentally quiet just outside the door.  I try my original defense, “I didn’t know!”  Shot down in a heartbeat.  Ignorance of the law of writerdom is no excuse.  Stalemate.  I offer a compromise.  I will write about it here, spread the word to the masses of the land.  After all, maybe there are others out there as ignorant as I was?  No?  Just me huh? 

My final desperate plea bargain:  at the end of November, I will interview a brave enlightened soul who undertook this momentous endeavor and actually completed the mandatory November novel.  We can vicariously experience the process, get a peek inside the madness, the genius, marvel at the fortitude.  Maybe share a piece of the writing here.  Will that appease the NaNoWriMo tribunal?  

 

I do not hear a response.  I hold my breath.  Slowly, the bolt rasps across my door, hits the frame with a finality that reverberates inside my consciousness.  An intra-psychic force field tracking devise has been erected.  I may leave my desk but I cannot escape.  I must serve my time, pay penance and return at the end of the month with my final reparation.


That was a close one and I am not free and clear yet.  Be warned.  And please, if you are a NaNoWriMo survivor let me know.  My very freedom and identity as a writer hangs in the balance!

For the real story of this amazing organization, please follow the link here, http://nanowrimo.org/ and see their press release in the Runaway Events Page above.

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Good luck to us all!